Be Present this Holiday Season

The holidays arrive quickly—filled with lights, music, gatherings, and long to-do lists. In the rush, it can be easy to forget that the most meaningful gift we give our children is not something wrapped under the tree, but our presence.

Children of all ages—toddlers, teens, and even young adults—benefit when parents slow down and truly engage with them during the holidays. Being present does not require elaborate plans or expensive outings. It means listening, participating, and creating moments of connection that they will remember long after the season ends.

Choose Activities That Build Connection

Holiday activities do not need to be complicated. Baking together, taking walks to look at decorations, playing board games, watching a favorite movie, or volunteering as a family all create opportunities for conversation and bonding. These shared moments help children feel secure, valued, and included.

Encouraging healthy activity is also important. Getting outside, moving your body, and balancing screen time helps everyone manage stress and maintain energy during a busy season. Even small habits—like a family walk after dinner—can make a big difference.

Encourage Healthy Nutrition

The holidays often come with indulgence, and that is perfectly okay in moderation. At the same time, modeling balanced choices helps children learn how to enjoy treats while still caring for their bodies. Involving kids in meal planning or cooking can make healthy foods feel festive rather than restrictive.

When parents demonstrate balance—enjoying special foods while prioritizing nourishment—children learn lifelong habits that support both physical and emotional well-being.

Stay Connected With Older Children and Teens

As children grow older, the holidays often include more independence—time with friends, parties, and late nights. Staying present means knowing where your older children are, who they are with, and how they are celebrating.

Clear expectations matter. Enforcing curfews, discussing plans ahead of time, and maintaining open communication help teens feel trusted while still keeping them safe. Conversations about avoiding substances, making smart choices, and looking out for one another should be ongoing—not just a one-time lecture.

When parents stay engaged and consistent, teens are more likely to make safer decisions and reach out if they need help.

Presence Over Perfection

The holidays do not need to be perfect to be meaningful. What children remember most is feeling seen, heard, and supported. When parents put down distractions, choose healthy habits, and stay connected—especially during celebrations—it creates a sense of safety and belonging.

This season, aim for presence over perfection. Your time, attention, and guidance are the gifts that truly last.